Title : The Subtle Art Of Not Giving A F -
A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life (english edition)
Author : Mark Manson
HarperCollins e-books.
First HarperOne hardcover published 2016.
FIRST EDITION ISBN 978–0–06–245771–4
EPub Edition August 2016
Summary and review
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F
Subtlety #1: Not giving a f does not mean being
indifferent; it means being comfortable
with being different.
The people who just laugh and then do what they believe in
anyway.They know it’s more important than they are, more important than their
own feelings and their own pride and their own ego. They say, “Fuck it,” not to
everything in life, but rather to everything unimportant in life. Because
here’s another sneaky little truth about life. You can’t be an important and
life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and an
embarrassment to others.
Subtlety #2: To not
give a f about adversity, you must first give a f about something more important than
adversity.
If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks
about trivial shit that bothers you—your ex-boyfriend’s new Facebook picture,
how quickly the batteries die in the TV remote, missing out on yet another
two-for-one sale on hand sanitizer—chances are you don’t have much going on in
your life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that’s your real problem. Not
the hand sanitizer. Not the TV remote.
If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks
about trivial shit that bothers you—your ex-boyfriend’s new Facebook picture,
how quickly the batteries die in the TV remote, missing out on yet another
two-for-one sale on hand sanitizer—chances are you don’t have much going on in
your life to give a legitimate fuck about. And that’s your real problem. Not
the hand sanitizer. Not the TV remote.
Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always
choosing what to give a f about.
Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck
about what’s truly fuckworthy. And like this book said, we need to turn our pain into power,
and our problems into slightly better problems, as a guide to suffering and how
to do it better, with more compassion and humility.
Other than super positive-self help book, i think this book is really worth to read. To make ourself conscious, about what to worry about, to keep our mind in focus, and let the worry about unimportant things in this short life be more meaningful and be happy in some ways-at the beauty of negativeness and expecting nothing or like Charles Bukowski wrote in his graveyard 'Dont Try'.
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